Recently, an acquaintance very innocently told me – What Jay, look at you? You have nothing to worry. You do assignments that you like, married the guy you love, take vacations, are successful and happy etc etc…
I heard it and I was like… Wow!! What I just heard makes sense and seems true. I do all of this and have so much more that others aspire for. A supporting family, flexibility & variety in my work, enough money for a comfortable life, time for family and the appetite to keep growing and achieving more. A superb feeling of content and joy!
While I was enjoying this feeling, the ugly part of the brain gets activated and starts whining about every possible thing – compromised life style due to weekend work, rejected work proposals, unbearable joints pain, cluttered mind as I scout for work almost every month, inconsistency in income inflow, wrecked relations, stress around extending family, falling hair and what not. Phew!! A feeling of dejection, frustration, unworthiness and confusion. (Take a note, the content on this para and number of feelings are more than the previous one :P)
So, the tussle between the two wolves in mind continues and I decide to probe further.
My own observations while driving around, reading newspapers, watching news channels and while conversing with known or unknown; one thing I can identify is the existing and growing pain amongst us. Be my acquaintances or strangers – I can spot some as helpless or addicted, alone, betrayed, self-constrained, frustrated or have mixed up feelings. Reasons could be any, feelings remain the same.
Some are claustrophobic and want freedom
Some are too free and want a shelter
Those who have nothing, are grappling to make ends meet
Those who have everything, are looking for peace & love
Those too ambitious crave for dose of fun and family time
Some are fighting for life with little hope in heart
Some succumbing to pressure from family or colleagues
Some are chasing to get everything best for them (definition of this “best” is best unknown to many)
Some are taking the wrath of history without any fault of theirs
Viewing other’s pain, I recognise my pain as almost insignificant.
There are numerous reasons for me to carry the unconstructive feelings. However, there are equal number of reasons to feel the way I want to. And what makes me feel the way I want to…
• Counting my many blessings and expressing gratitude
• Connecting to my core values of love, respect, integrity and contribution
• Complaining consciously and switching gear to look at the positive side of every situation
• Believing in the Law of Service, Law of forgiveness and Law of Karma
• Identifying my priorities, dissenting the impulses and focusing on my end goal
• Centering myself towards abundance I have and preserving those
• My desire to be happy and Continue to strive towards excellence and spread the values I treasure
• Meeting and attracting people in life who
…don’t have the basics but willingly offer their little alms…
…lead a struggled life but lit up the surroundings with their big smile…
…think of others before their own needs…
…enjoy the moment, the nature, and their current abundance rather being in the race…
…believe in the goodness of heart and spread values like trust, empathy and love…
… are so positive that their belief fills you with hope and aspirations…
…are content deep inside with no jealousy or materialistic desires inspiring many…
My final take…
When I look around I dun find anyone happier than me,
Another view again, gives me infinite reasons to complain, leaving me dejected…
I realize the choice is mine, where to look and how to feel!
I have my choice clear, in the attitude I wear.
Leaving you to think of yours…Nazariyaabadalneki der hai…
Cheers, Jayshree